There was a time when I couldn’t speak in public. And I don’t just mean up on stage in front of a crowd, I mean one on one, even with people I knew well. I was practically a mute and kept to myself. I just didn’t know what to say, nor how to say it.
Although that’s a half truth, because when I was with a person who did have ‘the gift of the gab’, my words flowed. You couldn’t shut me up once I got going on something I knew about. And it took me a very long time before I knew about talking.
After all, who really teaches you how to talk. Of course, when you’re young you learn the language, as you get older you go to school and learn more about the rules of the language and how to build bigger words, sentences and so forth. But no-one really sits you down and says, hey, you know if you want to have a good conversation with someone, here’s how you do it.
Some of us are fortunate enough to have people in our lives who, whether intentionally or not, pass on those lessons. For many of us though, it’s a lesson that’s learned the hard way.
That’s why I created this website. You see, I’ve learned many things but as I did so, I made many many mistakes. I’ve alienated people, I’ve excluded people, and I can’t count the number of opportunities that have passed me by because I simply didn’t know where to start.
Now that I’ve learned so much it would be a shame to keep it all to myself. So, I’ve built this site to help people just like me never let opportunity pass them by. I’ve created this site in the way that I learned.
I watched what other people did when they spoke and thought about how I could do the same. I studied different methods to keep calm, to keep a conversation flowing, to ‘act’ or in other words to ‘fake it until you make it’. And most importantly, I put pen to paper because there’s nothing worse than trying to recall that one line that you knew would bring the house down if only you could remember what it was.
So, peruse the site, join in the conversation with the comments, and most importantly enjoy your time spent on this site. After all, if you don’t enjoy something, then you won’t do very well at it.